Todays topic is Mood Disorder now this relates with BPD yet again like a hand made glove, Now I’m going to attempt to highlight Positives alongside the Negatives, Positives as been lacking in majority of my blogs this month of BPD Awareness, But this topic I can attempt to highlight some of the positives. This is one of the most destructive things to deal with for the other person in relation to relationships or sexual relationships, because the rapid mood changes are somewhat destructive even when there is no conflict or aggression within the mood changes, its the small things that impact life on a repeating basis.
So mood disorders are something quiet interesting for me personally because after much failed relationships and one particular relationship that suffered the brunt of my swinging moods, iv come to learn about my moods and also become aware of them, to now know when I wake up what mood I’m going to be in, Now its not set in stone my mood but I have a good sense of what it is, unlike before it was like I was blindfolded walking in a tunnel, has now its like I’m in the same tunnel but I have a torch/flashlight. So quiet a significant difference, So before I was aware of my moods it would be a case of daily life of arguments and anger and general nastiness, most of the time it was all done without it being on purpose, example I could wake up okay, and then ten minutes later id be in a miserable mood, 20 mins after that I could be in a fit of rage, and 1 hour from that I could be just disgusting to be around with the language id use on my then partner. Not understanding what damage I was doing by being like that, but I was blind to it, because I was not aware of it at all. You may think how can that be, but its like when someone is in denial over something, everyone can see the truth but the person suffering cant, its very much like that.
You only see it when you’ve to put it bluntly, when you’ve fucked it all up, that’s when you see the truth and it comes like a slap in the face with a wet fish. Your like omg was it really like that, how could I not of noticed etc, and all them self doubts, questions to yourself that has no answers YET, in time you’d learn what you did wrong etc, Now mood swings happens to us all its perfectly normal, but Borderline and mood swings are TOXIC to say the very least, Because not only do us with BPD feel emotions and feelings more intensely that ‘Normal people’ But being like this makes it our mood changing that much worse, because we feel it so deep and then we go along with the emotions and feelings attached to that mood.
So the swinging of each mood is rather tiring and annoying and everything else in between, its so destructive to the person its unreal, but for the other person, such has a partner, they need to be in the loop about your difficulties to stand any chance, even when they do understand it can still lead to break ups etc, but having them understand your issues does help a massive lot, trust me my ex partner had pretty much no choice but to understand my problems has she was living with me and living with it too, because that’s one of the damn control isn’t it, not only are you suffering you end up bringing someone else down too, because your messed up its rather a sad story but it happens in all parts of life and even the flip side, a poor man meets a rich woman, vice versa they share their life together, so the good and the bad, you cant cherry pick people, specially people you love at that time, you take the good with the bad. But that doesn’t stop you trying your damnedest to overcome your issues, because these mood swings are nothing but destructive in my opinion. Now I’m going to give you the flip side like I said at the beginning, the positives now I may not personally agree with them but they are a factor.
Positives of mood swings: You can be in a bad mood, to then suddenly snap out of it and be in a good mood, Being in a positive mood can help you do somethings you’ve put off, Being in a good mood can help you fix some relationships in a peaceful non Hysterical way, Being in a good mood can just make your own self feel somewhat at peace. Now these are some of the obvious things I know but they do make a big difference to borderliners, because us with BPD have learnt through time to cherish every last drop of anything good, weather it be a Mood, a person, a event, a new home, whatever, anything good we cherish to the very last drop because we know that it will NOT last long, and the negatives will come back like they always do, so we cherish the good when we get it, and them simple things I listed do mean a hell of a lot to us. Like I said at the very beginning its the small things that make a difference.
Now the Medical and Mental Health system have labelled mood swings has Mood disorders, now I’m going to go into all that why they chose that, but its rather a stigmatised label isn’t it, as soon has anything has Disorder or that DISGUSTING WORD , Disease. When anything gets them labels it gets a stigma which is not nice at all. But I’m mature enough to understand and see why they chose this label for this specific issue, because yes it is a disorder but just because something is something doesn’t mean you have to name it that. Crazy that may sound. But I’m passionate about labels and stigma’s, Personally iv had on my back the label of Disorder all my life with my eating, so these labels have an actual effect on my life. But yes iv side tracked a little. Mood Disorders I’m going to give you some clinical info now, but also if your more interested in this subject because this affects us all, that’s just a fact. Google it and do some reading on moods and then see what applies to you and see if you can make any changes to help yourself too, Things like your diet and lifestyle and all them obvious things are true but more detailed, deep things can beÂ touched on too.
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) often experience very intense mood swings. But how can these mood swings be distinguished from normal variations in mood, or from the types of mood swings associated with other disorders?
Let’s explore the typical pattern of mood swings in BPD, and how they are different from mood swings that we all experience from time to time.
Pattern of Mood Swings in Borderline Personality Disorder
Everyone experiences emotional ups and downs, but people with BPD tend to experience mood swings that are more intense and frequent than the typical person. While it’s normal to have your mood shift from feeling good to feeling down, someone with BPD may experience very severe mood shifts going from feeling okay to feeling devastated, desperate, or completely hopeless within a matter of moments. In fact, many people with BPD feel so overwhelmed by these intense emotional shifts that they engage in impulsive behaviours such as self-harm,Â or even suicidal thoughts or behaviours,Â in order to feel better.
These mood swings may also happen frequently. Someone with BPD can have many mood swings in the course of a day, whereas most people will only experience one or two major emotional shifts in the course of a week.
In addition, while most people have times in their lives when they are more emotionally vulnerable than other times, people with BPD experience emotional ups and downs consistently for years.
External Trigger as a Distinguishing Feature of BPD Mood Swings
Mood swings in BPD can also be distinguished from other types of mood problems by examining the triggers that precede the mood shift.
Very often, a mood swing in BPD happens in reaction to an external trigger, and these triggers are often related to perceived rejection or abandonment by another person.
If I Have Mood Swings, Does This Mean I Have BPD?
Keep in mind that even if you have mood swings that fit the description above, this is just one of a number of symptoms of BPD.Having mood swings alone is not enough to warrant a diagnosis of BPD.
However, if you are finding that your emotional ups and downs are interfering with your work, school, relationships, or enjoyment of life, it makes sense to seek out professional help. Remember it’s important take good care of your emotional health, just as you would your physical health.
Id like to thank you for taking the time to read todays blog on MOOD DISORDER.